Tuesday, April 21, 2015

So Close



This weekend we came very close to being matched with a little one to join our family, but it was not to be.

How it happened...

A few months ago a friend heard of a birthmother in another state looking for a Catholic family. We sent off our profile to the lawyer coordinating the match. 

For several weeks we didn't hear anything, so we assumed that the birthmother had picked another couple. It didn't bother us too much, because we've heard of a number of potential adoption situations in the past year (thanks to our AMAZING family and friends keeping their eyes and ears open for us), but none have worked out. This situation seemed like more of the same.

A few weeks ago the lawyer coordinating the match reached out to us again. The birthmom had a few follow up questions for us and a few other families. Excited, we penned our response.

Again, nothing for a few weeks, so we assumed a different match had been made.

Last week we heard from the attorney again. The birthmom wanted to talk to us and one other family! Wow! Us and one other family!!!!!! Really!?!?!?! We spent an hour on the phone with the birthmom last week. What started out as a somewhat awkward conversation quickly moved to an easy flow.  We discovered that we had a lot in common: similar values, faith, and interests. We felt hopeful.

All weekend we were cautiously hopeful. Thinking about welcoming a little one soon. Preparing our hearts. Planning for the future.

Today those hopes were paused. The other couple was chosen. Glad for them. So very sad for us.

Lord, help us hope in you. 

16 comments:

  1. I am so very sorry. ((((Huge hugs)))) to you both as you mourn this loss. I will pray for you tonight at adoration.

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  2. Ugh... extra special prayers for you & Mike tonight. Thank you for sharing and keeping us all updated, even when it is not the best news. Lots of love! xoxoxo

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  3. I'm so sorry, that sounds so difficult. I'l be praying for you both.

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  4. I'm so sorry, Marybeth! That sounds like such a rollercoaster....prayers for you guys as your hearts are hurting, and I hope the next match attempt is "the one"!

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  5. The adoption roller coaster can be so exhausting. Keeping you and your husband in thought and prayer, in confidence that the baby and birth family meant for you and Mike are on their way.

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  6. I'm so sorry, guys. :( Adoption loss really hurts. Take time to grieve. I hope and pray your perfect match comes soon!

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  7. HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  8. It's always so hard, especially when it goes on for so long like that. Prayers that your wait will soon be over!

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  9. I am in pain with and for you!
    Praying and offering for you!

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  10. Those calls that the EM has chosen the other couple just hurts. ugh. Been there ourselves many times. God bless you as you keep hoping in our Good Lord!

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  11. So sorry you were not chosen! prayers for peace and comfort as you wait on a match!

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  12. Oh Mary Beth, I am so sorry! Please know of my continued prayers for you and your DH!

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  13. Mary Beth, I can only imagine how it feels to feel so much hope that ends up not being realized in that specific situation. Praying for that you are able to grieve, regroup, and continue to wait in hope. I'm praying for you.

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  14. Ugh. We grieve with you at this hope lost, but may the sadness last only for a moment as He restores your hope.

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