Thursday, October 9, 2014

Home Study? Yeah Buddy!

Hi everyone, this is Mike, Mary Beth’s husband.  While Mary Beth does most of the writing here, we thought it’s about time I take another spin the on the merry-go-round of blogging.

So, what’s new?  Well, we’re one step closer to finishing our home study for adoption.  In fact, the end is very much in sight.  This past Tuesday our social worker came to our apartment for our last of four meetings.  Just for review, we’ve done one meeting as a couple, and one each individual meeting.  This final meeting was to see our place.

As a side note, we spent a few hours on Sunday and Monday cleaning the place, so this is the nicest it’s looked in a long time.  Now, our apartment is never really messy.  We’re pretty tidy people.  But lately Mary Beth has been getting some new decorations, and we did what I would deem a “deep clean.”  What, you ask, constitutes a deep clean?  Well, I know it was a deep clean because a) I found myself wearing rubber gloves on my hands and knees in the bathroom, and b) I used more than one vacuum attachment in a single day.  It was the kind of clean you can smell when you walk in.

Our newly decorated living room!
We got mums this year!
The meeting went well.  Our social worker wanted to begin with a “walk around” our place to get the “lay of the land.”  Since we live in a modest two bedroom apartment, that took about 45 seconds.  Yes, all our cleaning supplies and prescription medications are stored up high.  We have a working fire alarm.  There are no screamingly apparent hazards looming menacingly within our apartment.

As a bonus, we found out we have more paperwork to fill out.  This isn’t a shock, since one of the main activities in the adoption process is filling out paperwork.  My suggestion to these adoption agencies: do like iTunes or Facebook, and just give me a little box to check that I agree to all the terms and conditions, and let me click “continue.”

Bottom line: we should have our home study completed and approved within 30 days.  This is pretty exciting since we first began this trek over a year ago. 

So, what’s next?  Well, we’ve hit some snags in choosing what agency to do the actual adoption with (more on that another time).  But we’ll soon be signing with an agency that will work with us to pair us with a birth-mother.  So, it’s kind of like we’re at the doctor’s office moving from the big waiting room where you do your paperwork, to the smaller waiting room.  But in this case, there’s more paperwork in the second waiting room.

What can you do to help?  Help us network!  We’re waiting to be connected to a birth-mother that is opening to making an adoption plan for her baby.  But if we can connect with a birth-mom on our own, that moves things ahead.  So, if you know of someone who may be considering adoption as an option, please pass on our contact info.  Please also SHARE our blog site and our Facebook page with friends and family.  We’ve heard so many stories of couples connecting with a birth-mom through a “friend of a friend.”  Please keep your ears open, share our info, help us connect, and please, keep us in your prayers.

13 comments:

  1. Wait - more paperwork! How annoying. And problems sorting out what agency to do the adoption with? I'm definitely curious to hear about what all has been going on; it sounds frustrating and confusing.

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  2. love to you guys! love the new living room look too. hugs

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    1. Thanks! I wish I would have decorated awhile ago. It is fun to have it a little more cheery.

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  3. "More than one vacuum attachment…" LOL! Love Mike's descriptions of cleaning. So excited for you guys and will continue to pray.

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    1. Mike was hard at work... :) So glad he keeps me laughing!

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  4. You guys are very obviously a team in this journey, and that is AWESOME. He sounds like quite the jokester...so important :) God bless you and your family, I just know that God has amazing plans for you! PS Mary Beth, your decorating looks great!

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    1. Thanks so much! :) Yes, I am very grateful for my DH keeping me laughing and smiling.

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  5. Loving the new decorations! And really hoping and praying the networking connects you with your forever baby!

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  6. More than one vacuum attachment is definitely deep cleaning in my book! Love the colors in the living room.

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  7. You did a great job!!! Its been so long since I have seen your place!
    Praying for you always, tomorrow is your special day, Monday!

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