Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Fearful about Fundraising

We are continuing to make progress on our homestudy. Lots of steps to go, but things are moving along. Our family and friends are super supportive regarding our adoption efforts, so we are feeling very blessed.

Once we complete the homestudy and our profile is ready to show to birthparents (yay!), we are planning to do some fundraising. Our idea is to do a dessert social and invite friends from church for fellowship and yummy treats. We will have a box for a freewill offering or do a "puzzle fundraiser" (pieces of a puzzle for our child's room can be "purchased" for a small donation, and names can be signed on the back of the piece). We are then thinking of doing another similar event in Wisconsin to invite our families and friends there. Perhaps we could also do a silent auction, but it seems overwhelming to solicit donations and organize the logistics. We also set up an AdoptTogether account to accept tax-deductible donations, so hopefully that will be a good tool.


The more I think about fundraising and asking for help from friends and family, the more nervous I get. It will mean being really vulnerable. Eeeeeeeek!

The thing is, we could really use help from those who are willing. We have been saving, saving, saving, but adoption is not cheap (we are thinking it will be about $35,000....yikes!). We would really like to buy a house in the next year or two. It's scary to think about paying for adoption AND being able to buy a house with affordable payments. I know we need to trust God with all of this, but is it ok to fundraising?

I think supporting adoption is a great way to put pro-life values in action. But it's still scary to be the couple asking for that support.

What are your thoughts on adoption fundraising (ideas, how to ask for help, what's appropriate or not, etc)?

God bless your week! Thanks for stopping by!

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  1. So excited that this is happening for you two! Don't give up!

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    1. Thank you. It is scary and exciting. God's will be done.

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  2. I think it's absolutely ok to fundraise! It's a great way to have friends and family feel more involved with your adoption. Certainly some people will roll their eyes or not approve, but what's the worst they're going to do? Not donate and move on! So, I say go for it. Sounds like you've got some great events planned!! I'm really looking forward to hearing how it all goes. :)

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    1. Thank you. That' s a good point, I need to have a thicker skin if some people roll their eyes. It's totally understandable and fine if people aren't interested or willing or able to donate. Some people might just not be comfortable with that, and I understand.

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  3. I think it's great, too. I have been back and forth, because it is always a bit difficult to ask others for help, especially with something so touchy as money...but as you so wisely highlight, it is a great pro-life initiative and obviously a wonderful cause. I'll be praying extra hard for you guys as you take these first steps :)

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    1. Thank you so much for your prayers, it's scary and exciting.

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  4. I think fundraising is important, especially if adoption would otherwise not be in your budget. If you do any silent auctions, let me know! I'd be happy to make some wreaths for you to use. I also love that you signed up for a way for people to make their donations tax deductible; that definitely will help others out, while being helpful to you.

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    1. Awwww, thank you so much for the offer of wreaths! :) You are so sweet. That means a lot. I will definitely keep you posted.

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  5. I once saw a family have a garage sale to help raise funds for an international adoption...so yes...it's okay to fundraise. The money needed for adoption is a lot...yikes!

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  6. I agree with you that it definitely forces you to be vulnerable (I would feel that same way too), but I think family and friends will be happy to help in any way that they can. I think people that care for us feel so helpless in the wait, and this can be a way to feel like they are contributing whether it be through money or helping you plan these fundraisers.

    One nice thing is the adoption tax refund. We are still waiting on ours, but I think you can get up to $13,000 back. I think it is still in place. I know it's not everything, but it certainly helps!

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    1. That is a good point that people who care for us want to be able to help with donations or assist in planning. I'm pretty sure I would feel that way if a friend of mine was going through this. We are hoping the tax credit stays, so we can take advantage of it...maybe save it for a second adoption? :)

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  7. I know how you are feeling about fundraising. I have already been putting out feelers about what my family would think about us asking for donations. As expected, there were some who balked at and said very insensitive things. But then I remembered a scenario I had with a donor a few years back for a cause very different. He couldn't support my initiative for sincere reasons but then he said: "Never feel bad about asking for a good cause." Sure you may annoy someone and they may snub you, but is it a good cause you are trying to fund raise for? If you can answer sincerely yes, which I think you can in this case, then you have your answer whether or not to fund raise. Another thing you do want to consider - make sure you have an emergency fund in place before adopting. You don't want to go broke while adopting or after. Sorry to add another financial aspect to your plate but I think it is important to consider.

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    1. Thanks for sharing what the donor said to you. That is really encouraging. I'm sorry you have heard some insensitive things from family, so far so good for us, but I feel like I've gotten a few non-verbal hints from others. That is really good advice about the emergency fund, it kind of crossed my mind the other day...that we still want to have some funds in the bank when we adopt. It is definately a leap of faith, but we also want to be prepared and prudent.

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  8. I think it's fine to fundraise. I think it's awful how much adoption is, and this is for a child that needs a family as well as for you. Not everyone will understand, but those that want to and can will probably be happy to have a place where they can help out!

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  9. Hey lady! Sorry I haven't chimed in yet. We are on similar steps in this process. Fundraising is absolutely alright. If you've seen our blog you know we definitely will fund a portion of the adoption via fundraising. If you need a cheerleader, reach me at amanda.marie.teixeira@gmail.com and I am happy to talk further and encourage you more in this! :) People want to give in a concrete way and help families grow. Yes, there will always be people who don't think it's something they want to support...and you can't worry about them. You are inviting others to give, not to you, but to the Lord and His will in you/your child's life. That is an incredible opportunity for them to receive grace. You've got this! :)

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    1. Thanks so much for your encouragement and example. Loved your blog and puzzle fundraiser idea. I hope you don't mind that I link to it? Really appreciate your being willing to share in this journey with us, we are considering writing a letter to family and friends asking for their support. Any thoughts? Would you be willing to talk a look at it? Our email is graceofadoption@gmail.com. God bless you both in your adoption journey!

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  10. I know what you mean about fundraising making you feel vulnerable! I am going to need some big doses of courage to share with all our family and friends that we're adopting (if/when we arrive at that point). Most people don't need to raise $30K+ to become parents, so it makes me feel really "different." But I agree with the others that there's nothing wrong with fundraising for such a good cause that I'm sure your friends and family will be more than happy to help you with! For me, I think it would be a big step of faith on my part, and humility, to put myself "out there" in vulnerability. Good luck!

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    1. Thank you so much for the words of solidarity and encouragement. It means so much to know we are not alone.

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