Thank you in advance for your prayers and for reading our story! We are very humbled by the love and support, and blessed to be “Blogger of the Month” for October, as we celebrate our 5-year wedding anniversary (October 3).
We have been experiencing infertility for four years. It has been heartbreaking and devastating to say the least. While dating we often discussed our dreams for a large Catholic family. When we started trying to conceive we eagerly anticipated welcoming our first son or daughter. After a year of trying with no luck, we sought the help of doctors. What followed was three years of doctor visits (some out-of-state), numerous tests, monthly bloodwoork, medications, vitamin supplements, hormone injections, and surgery (for Mary Beth).
We also stormed heaven praying for a miracle. We were especially blessed to take a pilgrimage to Italy in 2011 for Blessed John Paul II’s beatification. Every cycle we hoped against hope for a pregnancy. Month after month, our hearts were left empty.
By God’s grace, we have experienced blessings and spiritual growth on this journey. Mary Beth started an infertility support group at church. Mike wrote an article explaining how infertile couples can still image the Trinity through their marriage. Even more importantly God has drawn us close to himself through prayer, the Liturgy, the support of so many. We are learning to trust God more fully, unite our sufferings to Christ’s, and abandon our lives and desires to his providence.
Another unexpected blessing is our embarking towards adoption.
While engaged, we agreed that if not able to have children physically, we would to adopt. We applied in November 2011 and August 2012 to be on waiting lists to begin the process with two different agencies. In the meantime we began spreading the word, hoping to connect directly with an expectant mother considering adoption. This summer we learned of a third agency that did not have a waiting list to start the process. We decided to begin our home-study in July 2013. Once our home-study is approved we will create a profile to be shown to expectant mothers.
It definitely has been a journey to adoption. Romans 8:14-17 has been especially meaningful:
“For those who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God. For you did not receive a spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you received a spirit of adoption, through which we cry, ‘Abba, Father!’ The Spirit itself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs, heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ, if only we suffer with him so that we may also be glorified with him.” – Romans 8:14-17
We are God’s children by adoption. We can call him “Daddy/Abba, Father”! He has accepted us, welcomed us, and first loved us even in the midst of our brokenness, inadequacy, and sin. He was not afraid to be the first to love. Families built through adoption image God’s love in a unique way. We are excited and hopeful that our future family can be a sign to the world of God’s love for humanity, his adopted children.
We are excited about adoption, but the pain of infertility still echoes in our hearts. Also, there are many unknowns to be resolved and more waiting in our future. So far, our home-study has dragged on longer than we expected.
Please pray for healing of our hearts from infertility, successful completion of our home-study, and for the expectant mother that will choose us to be parents for her child.
Mike and Mary Beth